Years ago, One of my juniors in the medical college was arrested for arson and the fact that he is an American Born Indian made it all the more interesting for the Bangalore police, who decided to lock him up!
His mother arrived from US few days later to plead for her son’s release.
She went straight to the Director General of Police and told him
“I have taught my son the Upanishads by the time my son was 7 years old and have raised him well. I go to temple every day and I can guarantee that my son would never do anything that is against the law”

Yesterday my son’s best friend got suspended from a school run program for brighter kids cause he said something inappropriate to another kid.
According to his mother
“My son doesn’t even know such inappropriate words, I go to church every Wednesday and Sunday and I know for sure my son is innocent”

Neither the mothers asked their son if they were guilty of the offense. They assumed their sons are innocent because they are religious.
In the first case, the guy set fire to few more hotel rooms before the Indian govt cancelled his visa!
In the second case, the boy walks around the school, boasting to everyone that his mother believes in him and will always bail him out.


My baby will be 13 in a few days.
Where has the 13 years gone?
From a scrawny little baby who weighed 2.7 kg at birth to a beautiful girl on her way to become a beautiful woman..
This morning you asked me if I would make you a cup of earl grey tea as I made mine.
From the child who never drank a drop of water in the first year to the child who only drank strawberry flavoured Nutrigen as a toddler to a teenager who likes to drink earl grey tea.. How much you have changed!!
When you were little, you wouldn’t eat a cookie if it wasn’t in perfect shape ( trust me, it took all my skills to make perfectly round white chocolate cookies you loved).
You also wouldn’t go any where if your hair was not tied properly. ( it was proper to my eyes and not so in your eyes and we used to argue so much about it and I still ended up redoing it, cause you were stubborn enough not to leave the house till it was done to your liking!)
Your room was always tidy. Your stuff always kept where it should be kept..

And now..
you bake cookies and tell me that home made cookies have a character when they are not perfectly shaped!!
It is a miracle that until now none of us have stepped on your hand phone, ipod, your pencil case, lunch box etc that you always leave on the living room carpet!
Your room..I hung the bead curtain, so I do not have to see the mess in your room. it has come to a stage that I am forced to invite one of your friends to come for a sleepover to get you to clean your room. ( Yup, I am smart!!)
and your hair..each time I ask you to comb your hair you tell is just hair ..who cares if I have combed it or not..

I love it when you come and lay down next to me in the evening and read. ( I hate it when you hog my blanket and my pillow) I love it when you get me books from your library.
I do wake up before you in the morning and wait for you to come to my room to wake me up, cause I know you will snuggle next to me for few mints..I cherish those moments.
I am still trying to figure out how do I end up buying clothes for you when we have gone to the mall to look for work clothes for me!!
I was amazed to learn how much you know, when you explained to me why Marijuana is better than Ecstasy as a choice of drug..
I loved your passion when you argued why cage eggs should be banned in Australia.

I asked you what you want for your birthday and you said you wanted an ipod touch..
You know very well that I won’t buy you an ipod touch, cause you already have a 32 gig Ipod nano and I think that is good enough,
So for your birthday, I am giving you something unusual.
I got you a bank account and a debit card. I have deposited 500$ for you.
You can use your card and spend the money however you want..
there is a catch though. ( yup, there is always a catch.. Did you really think that I would give you 500 bucks without a catch??)
Each year, from now till your 18th birthday, I will add whatever is the balance in your account to a maximum of 500$ every birthday.
ie, if you have not touched a penny, I will deposit 500$
If you spend all your money.. you get nothing ( So no gifts till your 18th birthday !!)
If you spend 100, I will add 400.
And knowing that you are my child and have inherited my cheekiness, you might think of not touching the money in year 1 and spend 500 in year 2, cause there is still 500 in the account. It won’t work. We will be working on year to year basis and not on cumulative basis.
So at the end, if you haven’t spend any money on your 18th birthday you will have 3000$ ..and you dad has agreed to match a dollar for a dollar on your 18th birthday.
Knowing how you like to spend money..Will you??
Time will tell..
Happy Birthday Yaya..
I know life isn’t a bed of roses as a teenager.. what with a mom who never understands.. ( I had a very similar mother, so trust me, I know !!)
You will have your share of heartbreaks, lousy friends, mean friends, annoying friends and totally annoying family..
All I want to tell you is that, I will always be there for you..ALWAYS.
I may not agree with you, I may scream at you, I may not let you do what you want to do.. but even when the whole world turns against you.. I will be there..for you.
You are and you will always be my darling..remember that always,

You can run, but you can’t hide !!

Ok, now that is the truth..
It is going to be year since I saw/spoke/heard from my mother.
To be honest, I have no idea where she is..
I will have to contact one of my sisters to find out where is my mother staying now..
Truth be told.. the last one year of living without my mother was pure bliss..
I didn’t have to do anything to get her attention
I didn’t have to do anything to please her.
I didn’t have to worry about her trying to humiliate me
I lived with no guilty feelings..
Yet this morning I woke up thinking about her, wondering if she is ok..
Soon I know I will call her..
She probably knows that as well..
I wonder what is this connection a mother has with her children.. that how much ever you hate still miss her and you hate yourself for your inability to walk away from someone who brings nothing but misery.

Electric Blue

This morning Yaya came to me and told me she wants to colour her hair and she has decided that the colour is going to be electric blue..
Before I continue explaining what happened after such a daring revelation, let me take you to a trip down memory lane.
The year was 1988
It was the night of the grammy awards live telecast and the camera showed this American girl with a huge Mohawk.. she probably had all the vibrant colours you could think of on her hair. I thought it was so cool and did the most dumbest thing I could ever do.
I told my mother who was sitting next to me and watching TV that I wish I could colour my hair like that. ( notice the key word here..wish) I didn’t want the Mohawk.. just the colours!!
What happened next was something unbelievable..
She cursed
She swore
She blamed my dad, my grandmother and everyone in their village..
She told me I was a failure because instead of studying, I wanted to colour my hair..
What will 4 people say? she asked me.
How could I give birth to such a monster, she banged her chest and wailed.
She then pointed her finger at my two youngest sisters and told them, don’t you dare learn such bad habits from your idiotic sister!
ninakku vere thozhil onnum illa..ninte appante veettil ellarkkum vatta, ninakkum vattu kitti enna enikku thonnunne.. She told me.
At the end, I was so angry with her.
It wasn’t that I was going to colour my hair.( I didn’t have the guts). But I hated my mother for not understanding the key word in that conversation. I was a teenager and all I said was ” I wish” didn’t meant that I was planning to do it. and even if I did colour my hair, it wasn’t the end of the world. It was just hair!! not like getting myself a permanent Tattoo that I said I love my Naga !!!

But saying all that, I have to tell you in all honesty that I wasn’t expecting Yaya to tell me that she wanted to colour her hair..
I looked at her and imagined meeting her school principal and trying to explain my child’s choice of hair colour !!
I wondered if she is serious about colouring her hair?
I was tempted to tell her, you are too young.. ( and you my readers will know what she would say had I said that!)
I thought, if you can’t beat them, you might as well join
So I told her..
Good Idea Yaya, But I think you should add a bit of red and blue, may be a bit of white the Union Jack….It will look good !!
She gave me ‘ that’ look..
Probably it meant that, she didn’t succeed riling me up this time..but she will try again..
I wait..each day..fingers and toes crossed..

Help please

Can someone please tell me where I can get a domain registered?
I tried go daddy and google, both don’t seem to have the
I noticed that there are various options available when I did a domain registration search.
Is there anything I need to be wary of?