This happened while Yaya and I were in India. We were waiting for my friend to fetch us at the jewellery shop where Yaya had her nose pierced.
Yaya has zero pain tolerance and every time the guy came with the piercing gun she shrieked and jumped off the chair. Soon we amassed a decent amount of spectators. Eventually she calmed down ( after a lot of prep talk from your truly) and got the job done. As she had an episode of syncope ( fainting spell), I didn’t want her to get up right away. So I asked the shop attendant “is it ok, if we waited in the shop till my friend arrives?” And she said “ok”
Afs we were waiting, Yaya looked at me and said ” I love you Mom, thank you for being the best”
One of the spectator was a woman of my age and I noticed her looking at me with surprise when Yaya told me I love you. She then asked me “How do you get your daughter to say I love you?”
I told her ” it is very simple, I tell them I love you few times a day. Every morning before they leave for school, I tell them Have a super day at school and I love you, Every phone call ends with I love you. Every goodnight ends with I love you.
A ( mallu) friend who was born and raised in UK once told me that he asked his father ” Why you never once told me “I love you” like my friends parents?” And his father replied ” Our love is in our hearts, you can’t show what is in our heart” He told me that he grew up thinking his parents never loved him.
It really is not hard to say I love you to your children. Say I love you, because they need to hear it, not just feel it.