Third Culture Kid (TCK)
This particular conversation started with Yaya telling me about how it is going to be when she joins Uni..
People are bound to ask her
“So where are you from?”
She could say “Australia” and that would surely elicit the question “Where are you really from?”
She didn’t know how to answer that question.
There is a long version.. she could say, I was born in Malaysia to a half Malaysian parent, grew up in Canada and then moved to Australia, and admitting that she doesn’t think like a Malaysian or have a Malaysian Indian identity, or a Canadian identity or an Aussie identity.
Her normal accent is Australian, but when she is annoyed with you, her accent will change to Canadian and she will swear at you in pure unadulterated Strine . I do love to bug her enough to get her angry.. just to watch her accent change..
Her second language is Spanish and third language is French….
I have often been worried about how my children would cope with lack of an identity or roots..
A friend of mine who has mixed parentage and didn’t live in either of the countries where his parents are from, told me not to fret.. he is confident that my children will bloom wherever they are planted..
But I have often imagined this.. a guy wanting to date Yaya because she is exotic… (it is the same idea with most men whom I met and wanted to date me..) and find that she is a coconut.. ( brown on the outside and white inside..)
I don’t have any answers or solutions..
I chose to travel and hopefully my kids won’t end up paying a heavier price for my decisions..