There are two things that would bring outΒ the most beautiful smile on my son’s face. Homemade Pizza and or dosai for dinner.

Every time I grind the batter for dosai, I make a large batch and divide in to few ziplock bagsΒ  and freeze them. In the morning before I leave home, I take one of the frozen batter packet and leave it in a bowl outside to defrost. The dosai batter will be ready to cook when I get back in the evening. I usually rely on frozen Dosai batter if I have to work late and don’t have time to cook a proper (healthy) dinner.

My son likes to eat dosai with yogurt and while waiting for me to make really crispy dosai, he mentioned

“My kids are going to be totally weird like me and eat dosai with yogurt”

“Well that would depend on if you marry an Indian girl” I replied

“What do you mean?” He asked

“How else are you going to get Dosai? It is an Indian food. Unless of course you teach your prospective partner how to make Dosai”

“Mom, What makes you think I can’t make Dosai for myself? Why should my wife make Dosai for me? If I want to eat it and I will make it, simple”

He has a point, doesn’t he? Why do I think that his wife has to make dosai for him? I have been living outside India for most part of my life, yet the old Indian values are still in me and it creeps out when I really am not looking.

I am so upset with myself.

16 thoughts on “Sexist

  1. lol!! I think since he relies on you for dosas and may be he has never made batter or dosas himself led you to think so!
    Anyway, you are doing something right for him to think that he can do it himself and does not have to rely on anyone else.

  2. Dosa with yoghurt πŸ™‚ yesterday my daughter was eating idly with yoghurt and I was thinking how did she come up with such a combination, looks likes she’s not the only one πŸ˜€

    • sh: My son also loves cheese dosai.. I sprinkle a generous handful of grated cheese on the dosai while it is cooking and my son loves it. He eats that with yogurt as well.

  3. Lol.
    I already wrote up the recipe to make appam batter for my son. I was debating myself whether he’ll find making dosa batter too cumbersome. This helped me make a decision. πŸ˜€

    • Thumbi: Initially I wrote down all the recipes for the kids, but they don’t follow any of my recipes. They google every time they want to make something.

      • I have them on my blog, so hopefully he’ll look it up πŸ˜€

        You are right though, even though I know some of my mom’s recipe by heart, I just google them at times. πŸ™‚

      • I first stumbled upon your food blog – which I believe you mentioned you had started for Yaya.- and that’s how I came upon your blog DAO.

        • Nimmy: I had such high dreams.. that I will create a recipe blog for the kids.. only to find that they google and look for reviews.. and then pick the best out of that.

  4. Its not cos ur sexist….. other wise your son would never have replied this way… all through our childhood in “God’s own country” we are unconsiously taught that its a woman’s job to do household chores that’s all πŸ™‚ its like its etched into our system forever…… but you’ve done a grt job of raising your son to be a grt person inspite of the faults in our own upbringing! well done mama !

  5. Dosa with yogurt…nice combination :D. Might as well try it as well πŸ˜€

    Whenever I or another family member of I make dosas, we like to fry it with butter/margarine, it tastes so good. Along with that, eat it with fish pickle, which is a icing on the top πŸ™‚

    Nice to see that your son intends to make this stuff and not depend on his wife to do it. Nice to see that we are breaking the patriarchal mindset that the girl always has to cook for the husband.

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