I am not a violent person, but I wanted to give ‘her’ a tight slap yesterday. I attended a get together at a very dear friend’s home yesterday. All of us have children of the same age and our children are good friends. All the girls decided to watch a movie and the all the boys chose to play xbox games. My friend being the sweetest person that she is, made popcorn and drinks ( mocktails) for the girls as a treat. I helped her to carry the drinks and as we entered the media room, her daughter asked her very rudely ” What do you want mom?”. She saw the popcorn in her mother’s hand and said ” You can leave the popcorn on the table ” and when the mother did that, the daughter very rudely told the mother ” You can go now”. I wanted to give her a tight slap. There is no excuse for rudeness.
A senior of mine hated her father visiting her at the college. Her dad was a typical small time farmer, who chewed pan, talked loudly and preferred to sit down on the floor. When we returned from our morning rounds, you would see him sitting on the floor in front of the hostel, happily chewing and spitting the pan everywhere. I guess she felt her dad wasn’t up to the standard of everyone else’s dad and always scolded him for coming to visit her. Even after she scolded him, he still came the very next month to see her. I used to feel so sorry for that man.
But my friend was an assistant District Attorney before moving to Australia. It is not that she is uneducated and not up to the standard in comparison to other mothers. I think, if Yaya talked to me like that, I would have given her a piece of my mind right then and there. I am a nice, kind, gentle whatever mother, but I will not tolerate disrespect.
I echo your sentiments. If it were my daughter, I would have made sure that she would never speak to me like that ever.. Matter of fact, she does not..it is not tolerated.. and she knows that. She is not allowed to disrespect anyone.
I think you friend has not drawn the line. The kid obviously got away with it. This will happen again to her, because the kid has not been shown her place.
When I read your title.. I was reminded of the time when I did get a tight slap from my mom!! 🙂 that title did for a moment transport me back to that day!
That girl was plain rude, Sarah.
Hi Sarah,
I truly understand your feelings. I am normally an understanding mother, and gives my daughter enough freedom too…. But this weekend, she had some neighboring kids playing in the house. And when I told the kids to have lunch in half an hour, my daughter simply refused, and started drawing conditions.. I asked her friends to please excuse us, took her to her room and told her very plainly that this time she is forgiven. But if ever, she repeats the same again, she will be given a slap right in front of her friends…. and I think the message got through!
Well said. I think kids will learn to respect, only if parents draw a line. Even thoguth parents love kids to no end, a line needs to drawn, where they donot take parents for granted.