I was once a famous doctor, working 48 hours shift and saving lives. After I had my kids, My career took a dive. I chose to be a stay at home mother in the first year after their birth, then worked only part time
. It is a tough choice. What is more important.. My kids or my career?
I have slogged and worked so hard to become a doctor. But I am also a mother.
My sisters are smart, they chose not to have kids as they interfere with career decisions. I wanted kids. They mean the world to me.
My cousin in US send her 1 month old daughter to her parents in Malaysia and they raised her till she was 3 years old. Another one in KL sends her child to the childminder and picks up the child only during the week end. I couldn’t do that to my kids. My mom once asked me, why am I so fuzzy? Why couldn’t I get a nanny and go to work? I wanted to be there for the kids. But still deep some where I missed working. I missed my job.
Would I be a lousy mother, if i go back to full time work? Am i loser if i give up my career?