I spoke with my mother yesterday and during our conversation she had asked me “how is my grandson”
When Amma was staying with me, she has seen that my son always calls me up on Sunday mornings and I told Amma that he didn’t call yesterday.
Amma asked :How come?” and I replied ” Ma, he sent a message that he is in Montreal attending some racing” ( My son didn’t even tell me that he is going to Montreal and I have no idea what racing he went to, while talking to Amma, I googled all the races in Montreal and I am assuming that my son did the Baja Montreal)
My mother’s response was ” He is a boy and he should live his life doing things he likes to do”
Now that is a statement you would never expect to hear from my mother. Many of you know what she made me go through when I was living with her. I couldn’t resist but ask her
“Amma, how come, you are all understanding and nice now when I, as your daughter had to go through hell”
She replied ” When you were young, I didn’t know how to raise all of you, clearly I have harmed you all. Now I know better”
And to top the icing of the cake, she also said ” that is why I didn’t react when your son brought his gf home and they slept in the same room”
I guess there are few things I should point out.
Damages my mother inflicted will never go away and will always be with me. But it made me a better mother. She had a chance to see the fruits of her labour ( the good, the bad the terribly ugly ones)
The only consolation that I have is that I have not continued with the abuses.