I have been nominated for a very prestigious Scholarship in a very prestigious Uni..The chances that I will get it is very remote and that is not the point of today’s post.

Years ago, after I quit work and became a stay at home Mom, there were days I wondered if everything was ok with my mental faculty. This was the time when I, a woman with an IQ of 149 was analysing  systematic way to wash Nappies. ( the best way was to wash off the poop, then soak in strong soap for minimum 6 hours, followed by 6 rinses by hand. Environmentally friendly, one income etc meant I used reusable nappies than diapers!). Meanwhile my medical college classmates were climbing the ladder of success creating their own niche and leaving their kids to be raised by others and my life was like a groundhog day. Taking care of the kids, each day, every day with hardly any rest.

But there was one quote that I believed in

“You can have it all, but not all at the same time”.

When I struggled as an immigrant in Canada with no money, there were days I didn’t believe that I could have anything..

But today I can tell you..” you really can have it all, but remember not all at the same time”

Today, I am glad I took the time off and raised my children. I gave them the best childhood a mother could ever give and they gave me a chest full of good memories that I can carry to the end of my life. I did my job as a mother very well.

Now it is my turn to shine in my career and shine I will.

20 thoughts on “All

  1. Hi Sarah
    I am glad to hear that you have been nominated for a prestigious Scholarship. I don’t agree with your second sentence “The chances that I will get it is very remote”
    Yes, Over the period of time I have realised that you can get whatever you want in your life, but it takes time. Hope you are recovering well!

    • Asha: Sho, there are plenty of students who are much better than point is, I don’t mind much if I didn’t get the scholarship. What I liked is the fact that I was nominated !

  2. Congratulations!!!!

    Am so happy for you !! And yes, you can have it all though it may not be at the same time and may require some work, trials, failures..etc to achieve it. Makes complete sense.

    • J1206 : My point was more for the women who are pressured to, family, etc together. You can have it all.. you can have a career, raise your kids, be the best in all that you want to..but not at the same time.

  3. What shall I tell You? Just say congratulations? Yes you deserve it. You always compare it with yesteryears and make it a big thing.Actually you are a born talent.

    • Bipin: You missed the point in the post. It wasn’t about the scholarship or that I am a born talent. Women are always pushed to achieve greatness by the society..the best is assumed to be the one who can manage a career and raise her family. I believe you really don’t have to do it all at the same time and get burned out. You can have I at a time.

  4. Thank you chechi for this post, something that i wanted to hear today…when im Sitting at home and raising my daughter,happily and wholeheartedly, and side by side listening to comments from family, neifhbours n friends on how an “ambitious” person like me can waste away years being a housewife … Even though the decisión is mine, Over a period of time people’s negative energy do get to you. Thank you so much for reminding me that i took the right decisión and that i can all of that i dream of and desiré, oNe step at a time

    • Sham: Kochey, I went through hell..with everyone telling me what a big mistake I was making..some even laughed at me and told me I was loser. Today, I am a rising name is out there and I mix with people who wield enormous influence and power in healthcare.. If I had continued with my work when my kids were little, by now I would have been a partner in a GP clinic.. seeing the same old cases every single day and once a year vacation ( depends entirely on getting a suitable locum) to the Med. I am so glad not to have travelled down that path.. Your dreams shouldn’t end just because you took a career break..the world is yours to conquer.. when you are ready.

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