He bought flowers for her !
His school offers valentines day rose delivery and he told me
“Mom, I would like to buy a rose for her”
(He didn’t ask me , if he could buy flowers for her)
I could have said “flowers for valentines day is so over rated”, “waste of time”,” you are too young” and deep in my heart there was this little voice that was dying to say “son, please find a non Muslim girl, there are plenty of them out there, you just have to look”
When I was expecting him, I had a severe anaphylactic shock and was told that I will lose my unborn child and I was almost 8 months pregnant then. I thought of all the things I would miss if I lose my baby..His first smile, his first step, his first day of school, his first love…
But I didn’t think of the religion of the girl. That was irrelevant then. I just wanted my baby to be born alive, I just wanted to have chance to see all those things that I would have missed if he didn’t survive.
So, I nodded my head to my son’s request. ( I am not sure if you could term his decision to buy flowers as a request. But I wouldn’t have known if he didn’t tell me, the school wasn’t going to tell me, “hey Sarah, just a heads up, your son ordered flowers for a girl”)
Teenage love has very short expiration date..I don’t know how long this particular love affair will last. I don’t know how it will all end. But I believe that my son has a right to chose his partner. This is his journey. My job is to be there, to share his joys and support him when he needs the support..
12 years ago, I hoped I will get to see this day.. And I did.
Happy Valentines day..
I’m pretty sure he would be embarrassed if he got to know you are writing about it. Do you want to do this to him – it is going to be there, somewhere, forever…
And. your son getting a muslim girlfriend is much better than your daughter getting a muslim boyfriend. Just my thought!
Unlimitedrandomthoughts: Why would my son get embarassed? Because he bought flowers for the girl he likes? So you think what he did was wrong, hence it should be a secret and must not be told to anyone?
I don’t wish to quantify who ( my son vs my daughter) would be worst off dating/marrying a Muslim. It is a decision my children ought to make. If my daughter is fine wearing a burkah, then who am I to judge her? Just the same way, if my son can live without eating bacon, then who am I to judge him. My point is, yes I am uncomfortable, but I will not judge my children if they chose to marry a Muslim. Every pot has its lid and if their partner is a muslim..then so be it.
oh no, you got me wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong in getting someone flowers. I just thought that he would be at an age when he is very sensitive and extremely secretive, and wouldn’t want (potentially) the whole world to know about it.
About boy vs girl, I agree that you can’t judge if your daughter/son is making a mistake – but that won’t prevent you from worrying about them. And my comment about muslim girl being the lesser evil is just based on personal experience. I have always felt that muslim men are more male chauvinistic (now this need not necessarily hold for a particular individual, and i realize that i should not generalize) compared to people from other communities. To tell the truth, I know more muslim women than men, and I find them easier to mix with.
And may be I shouldn’t have made that first comment about “your son getting a muslim girlfriend is much better than your daughter getting a muslim boyfriend”. Sorry!
Unlimittedrandomthoughts: You don’t have to say sorry ma, we all have a right to say what we think !
Unlimited random thoughts: Nah, my son isn’t secretive. I have always made it a point to talk to my children,so even now, they still talk to me about anything and everything.