What would you do, if you know your mother is going to Bangalore to see him again?
I am just so worried.
Some days I wake up feeling so much anger towards my mother. I wonder how anyone can be so stupid. I want to be able to go inside her head and churn her brain, hoping I can cure her blindness..
Then I think, it can’t be possible, my mother can’t be that stupid. She has seen what George has done/doing to her daughters. She can’t be blind.
I am mother of two daughters and a son. If anyone as much as tried to harm my children, I know I will kill them. If I feel that way, then why not my mother? Why is she pretending to be blind?
What troubles me the most is much as I try, nothing makes sense to me. Can a mother sell her children? Can a mother be manipulated so much as to not see what she is doing?
Then there is people like Tinkerbells, who worry about my mother and her feelings. When educated people like Tinkerbells, think that I am hallucinating, then I start to wonder, Am I crazy?
Is it wrong that a part of me absolutely hate my mother?
Then I think, my mother had gone through a difficult life. She is already 71. How many more years, is she going to live? She deserves happiness. After she is gone, I don’t want to live the rest of my life thinking that I didn’t try hard enough to make our relationship work. She is my children’s grandmother. So there is a part of me that loves her too.
Where should I stand?
I am a daughter. I only have one mother. She gave birth to me. She raised me. She also sold me and She still cares for the man who hurt me.
Try talking to your sisters about it. I know it will be hard, but atleast Maria cannot deny what he is capable of. Convince Maria to talk to your mother….
is that beast still alive??… puzhuthu chathu kaanum ennu vichaarichu…
i agree with chaos… it’s gonna be hard for you to convince her if she couldnt believe you in the first place.. she mite listen to ur sisters…
sarah,
Though shes ur mom n u lover her n all, I would suggest that u dont try talking to her about not going already ur the villain of the piece,let her lead her life as she deems fit,just carry on with ur life rather than wasting ur time ne energy on something dats not gonne yield result,ur kids need u more than ur mother now
well… i guess he still is playing big in politics and social organizations there now also…
as someone mentioned, ur mention of the power and hold of “george” is too big a clue for mallus around bangalore and karnataka to recognize him…
anyways… it is her life… let her make the decisions… she at least have people to fall back when in trouble… rite…
It is easy to wake up people who are sleeping but impossible to wake up somebody who is faking to sleep.
I think in her heart your mother would know what kind of a man he is, but still cannot resist him!
your story grows more and more interesting by the day!
sarah,
I agree with arun. Dont worry take care of urself and ur kids.
I,ll pray for u
Love and regards
Sarah,
“It is easy to wake up people who are sleeping but impossible to wake up somebody who is faking to sleep.”
Abraham is right.
sarah!!
Reading the turn of events in the last few days, you cannot but let your mother be, there is nothing you can do….
Sad that your mother does not realise the danger to the other daughters…but “he” has closed her eyes with material things and confort and manipulated her….
What to do?? Bust the bubble…that is George…yes…the bigger the bubble is the better it pops…and with the information technology …it can be done..just you have to have the courage!!
have you not heard of the wise saying ” the pen is mighter than the sword”
May you find that.
Take care and may happiness surround you!
Hi
Is your ‘uncle’ still alive??? Can’t believe someone could be this evil!! You could’ve used the same tactics. Written anonymous letters 2 his daughter or wife! If Mr.evil is still up n kickin, may be you should expose him albeit in a subtle manner. I bet he can’t spread his evil tentacles all the way to Canada!
Cheers
its hard to tell!.. when people are blind in their own mesh!.. hope things clear with time..
i can understand there are people like nina’s mom out there, because my own mother is this incredibly selfish person. people like tinkerball will probably say i have a persecution complex or i have a skewed vision. I alone know the truth of what i went through. so what right has tinkerbell to judge someone by imagining maybe things were different? was she there to witness the events? does she even know any of the poeple involved?
sarah, i think you should have left that old post of tinkerbell. you have to understand that people may have different views. see, even you have wondered abt the reasons behind your mothers actions and you also have mixed emotions towards her.
now that your mother is 71 and this guy may be 75-80, let them do whatever. i dont think you could separate them after decades and even if you could, there may not be any more use to it.
anyways, sad to see the turn of events in your recent posts. may be the people who may come to understand you would be your younger sisters i feel. dont know.
love,,
Rocksea: I do not have any personal vendetta against Tinkerbells
You have to understand that like they say, you can’t serve two masters.. I can’t go on hating my mother and loving her..
There is something about the way Tinkerbell ended the post..” for the sake of that 70 year old mom”.. I keep reading it.. Mostly because, I am afraid that I failed my mother..I never ever intended to fail my mother..
I understand people have different views..I respect that. But I will not accept someone telling me that after all I have gone through, it is my perceptions that are skewed..
There are so many women like me.. abused by their own mothers.. They face the world like I do.. A world that tells them ” Hey, it didn’t happen to me.. so it couldn’t have happend to you..it is just your perception.”
I write my blog, so I can find the answers to my questions.. also for those women who suffer in silence because, like me they too know if they ever opened their mouth, they would be branded as crazy..
I want people to understand, yes things like this happen..
No one helped me, when I needed help..
But there are women out there.. who needs that help..They need to know that someone believe in them.. not tell them that it is just a matter of perception.
Sarah,
from the begning i had a doubt abt this guy. since you spokeout his name its clear now.
Hope you know what happend to him in his old age. when i herad that his wife had runaway with his subordinate i had really pity on him but now there is no more… now im sure there is a GOD.
Sarah,
“I want people to understand, yes things like this happen..”
Exactly.
Just because there are family ties does not mean that anything and everything can be suffered.
http://philososphyofalex.blogspot.com/2006/10/evil.html
Sarah,
leave them, let them do what they want. You tried your best, now leave them to God.
Sarah,
leave them, let them do what they want. You tried your best, now leave them to God.
This is such a touching blog. I dont even want to begin to think that I can give any advice to you. But if I was in your shoes, I would certainly think of cutting my losses because you cannot change what happened and you cannot hope to change other people. The only thing you can do is to move on with your life and that definitely require that you minimize your chances to get hurt again. Just a thought. Forgive me if it sounds like trivializing a very complex situation… that was not the intention.
Sorry guys.. For such an emotional outburst with this post.. I guess I was overwhelmed with a very familiar fear..
Only after reading all the comments that I realized, I wasn’t clear about what I am worried about.. I am least bit worried about my mother or relationship with George..After all these years, one gets immune!
I am worried about me..my kids.. our safety.
It won’t take George much long to get my contact details from my mother. And I know his venoumous tentacles go far and wide..
Please go ahead..This blog is emotional but is also courageous. We all have certain secrets which we want to let out of our system but we don’t. We suffer in silence waiting for a saviour who may never come. Such posts helps those who want to express their inner feelings to actually open out. Do continue the good work; we are all there with you, in some way, emotionally, attached to you and your family.
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