Next week my youngest will play her last violin concert at her school and that event will finally end 5 years of tears and tantrums.
It all started in when she was in grade 3. She was chosen to learn violin at school. I remember how excited she was when she came home with the letter from the school music teacher that she was selected for the instrumental music program.
I also knew if she joined the music program, it will involve regular practicing and early morning lessons, so I explained to my child that I will only sign the parental consent, if she signs a declaration that she understands it is a long term project, that she has to practice everyday and that she will not be allowed to quit and must complete the full program ( until grade 7).
I also felt it is not fair to her music teacher, who really works hard to teach musical instruments to children who have never played violin/cello etc before and most children quit when going gets tough and she can’t replace children half way.
I wanted to teach my child about commitment and not to be a quitter in the game of life. Signing up for violin lessons provided an opportunity for her to learn about commitment and 5 years was a really long time..
Grade 3 and grade 4 was alright. She practiced every evening. Grade 5, she felt learning violin is a waste of time and we began to have regular arguments. She wanted me to tell her what she would gain by learning to play violin and I told her very frankly that perhaps her destiny is not going to be like Vanessa May, but sticking with the program will teach her a valuable life skill. We argued passionately. She said how much she hated violin and me I said I am sorry you feel that way, but you will still need to practice because you signed a declaration saying you will. And she did. ( grudgingly)
When she went for her high school interview, her interviewer noticed from her report that she is in the school musical program and asked her ” will you be continuing your violin lessons in high school?” and she replied very frankly ” not in this life time”
And that is that.