Too much

Too much to write (of course).

My son or my holidays first?

I guess my son comes first.
Honestly I am still in shock. I never expected him to get the scholarship. Now, don’t get me wrong. I know he is a very intelligent child. But still, to get a scholarship that too in one of the top school in Australia is simply incredible.

For me, I feel vindicated for all the wars I fought for him.

My son was already in a maths acceleration program in Canada and when we came to Australia, though he had only completed grade 3 in Canada, he was placed in a grade 4 and 5 split class, so he could continue with advanced maths.
We arrived in Australia in the last term and he completed the  grade 5 maths by the end of the term.
In grade 5, he had the most laziest teacher on earth, who refused to let my son do the grade 6 maths. She had the audacity to tell me that, she doesn’t want to let him do the grade 6 maths, because it is extra work for her!! I had to go all the way to dept of education ( which obviously made me the least popular mother in the school) and got an assessment done for my son ( WISC 4) .
My son was identified gifted and the teacher was not pleased. It was a constant battle.

One thing I always believed that was, the only advocate my children will ever have in their life is me and I will do whatever it takes to make sure that they get the support they need.
I need to mention that, I was not trying to push my son to do more maths. It is he, who wants to do it. He absolutely hates repetition. There was no way he would have gone to school, if he had to do the grade 5 maths again.
I was alienated at the school. ( I still am) Because most mothers find it really disturbing that I allowed my son to grow his hair, I took him out of religious lessons, he reads novels during class etc and to make matters worst, he is still a straight A student. If he wasn’t good academically, then they could point their accusing fingers and blame me.
A day before the new school year, the School  puts the new class list out and I noticed that the principal had placed my son in a grade 6 and 7 split where only he and another child is from grade 7 and the rest of the kids in grade 6. I hate to think that the principal was holding a grudge. But there is no reasonable explanation to explain why my son who is already in a maths acceleration program has not been placed in a grade 7 maths acceleration class ( with a class teacher well known for being a maths guru), instead he was demoted to a grade 6 and 7 split. ( where a teacher spends half her time teaching the grade 6 and other half for the grade 7 in the same class!)
Apparently, the Principal’s decision is final. Again, I had to fight for my son. The principal finally moved my son from the split class to a standard grade 7, not the maths acceleration class. Which was fine by me. My son hates repetition, there was no way he would have sat through grade 6 lessons in a 6 and 7 split. He still reads novels during class, but at least he is willing to go to school.
I know I have plenty more battles to fight..
But today, I am just so relieved..that all the wars I fought till now was worth every bit.

13 thoughts on “Too much

  1. I just have this one question how did you turn to be an atheist? Is it that you were always one? Or circumstantial? Been wanting to ask you just that!

    Don't you at the least believe having intelligent and smart kids is a gift from God?

  2. SL: would only a bright child be a gift from god? What about a disabled child? Would that child be not a gift of god?
    Why would you want to bring religion to quantity of intelligence? Why would you want to subscribe to the notion that anything exceptional is a gift from god and anything that isn't is nothing but a trial to test your faith?

  3. When you are in a relationship arent there the positive sides and then the trials and the tribulations? I believe with God it is the same, you are in a relationship where the higher authority is God. Even if you had a disabled child that too is a gift from God.

    Just that have you not ever just for a moment at least felt God's hand in your entire life?

  4. SL:just that I have the guts to accept that I am the master of my own destiny and refuse to subscribe to the psycho babble that 'some higher authority' is responsible for my actions and reactions. I am pretty happy taking responsibly for my own actions and don't need to hide behind unknown figure for my failings, neither do i feel compelled to give credit to an unknown figure for my success, i don't see the need for god's hand in my life, I chose to live a life the way I want, of course I will stumble, but I won't have to blame an unknown figure when I stumble!!

  5. It always feels better to have someone who doesnt change to hold onto no matter what the situation is. When you experience that love only will you be able to believe and understand rest all are just overconfidence or arrogance which I must say we wouldnt admit.

    As your kids grow older you could get the peace of mind that they would not make the wrong choices for the true love of God. That's what a mother could do best for her kids teach them that they have a Creator that they need to hold onto.

  6. SL: You mean to say, bad children are born only to atheist? or are you going to now say that bad children are also born to Christians, but they are on trial to test their faith?
    I don't need crutches or in your words holding on to someone who doesn't change when I have my own legs to stand.
    Over confidence or arrogance? You are missing the hell fire!

    As a mother of my three wonderful children, I have taught them what is right and what is wrong without bringing in religion.
    How they turn out in their life is their own destiny. But I will not teach them the love of GOD, for the simple reason as Mark Twain said
    …a God who could make good children as easily a bad, yet preferred to make bad ones; who could have made every one of them happy, yet never made a single happy one; who made them prize their bitter life, yet stingily cut it short; who gave his angels eternal happiness unearned, yet required his other children to earn it; who gave is angels painless lives, yet cursed his other children with biting miseries and maladies of mind and body; who mouths justice, and invented hell–mouths mercy, and invented hell–mouths Golden Rules and foregiveness multiplied by seventy times seven, and invented hell; who mouths morals to other people, and has none himself; who frowns upon crimes, yet commits them all; who created man without invitation, then tries to shuffle the responsibility for man's acts upon man, instead of honorably placing it where it belongs, upon himself; and finally, with altogether divine obtuseness, invites his poor abused slave to worship him!

  7. Arent you one bit responsible to how they will turn out to be? After all these talks how could you mention that it is your children's destiny of what they will become? That is a clear contradiction.

  8. SL: Do you honestly think, I as a mother of my children can control their destiny? and more interestingly why would I want to do that?
    How is it contradictory when my son woke up every morning, studied and got the scholarship and I tell you that it(getting the scholarship) is his destiny?
    It is you who wants me to give credit to third party ( your god)because in your world, everything happens because of god's love.
    It is you who can't accept that children can be raised without god.

  9. Back to square one, how did you turn to be an atheist? Is it that you were always one? Or circumstantial? No kids involved please:)

  10. SL: I was raised in a typical Syrian Christian faith, read the whole bible, attended Sunday school, church, observed all the lent and one day it dawned to me that I really am the person in charge of my destiny. It took a while to get rid of the fear of eternal damnation and hell fire!
    I hv friends who are gays and I am sure you know Christianity's take on homo sexuality.
    I also strongly believe, the world would have been a better place had the missionaries stayed in their own home and minded their own business!

  11. SL: I was raised in a typical Syrian Christian faith, read the whole bible, attended Sunday school, church, observed all the lent and one day it dawned to me that I really am the person in charge of my destiny. It took a while to get rid of the fear of eternal damnation and hell fire!
    I hv friends who are gays and I am sure you know Christianity's take on homo sexuality.
    I also strongly believe, the world would have been a better place had the missionaries stayed in their own home and minded their own business!

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