Acha

I would like to clear the confusion regarding the word Acha.

I know exactly how it all began when we started calling him Acha for the father ??.

When we started to address him as ??, George was worried/concerned that he might get in to trouble if someone overheard us calling him ?? as father and might get suspicious, especially because most of the malayalees in Bangalore knew he has a wife and two kids in Bangalore( not four girls!!) .

In my community, maternal uncle is Ammachan and often is called as chachan, chacha or acha where the cha is pronounced as ???.
So George and us compromised and we decided to stick to Acha ??? as in uncle.
The reason I blogged( Guns and Roses post) about wanting to call a man who destroyed my family ?? as father was
1. for me to remember that I betrayed my own father,
2.for me to remember that I could get so jaded with power and money that I betrayed my own father and had the audacity to call someone else ?? father.
3.for me to remember that, whatever happens I can only have one father and that is the man who is my own father
4.for me to remember that sometimes things that I do foolishly can stay with me for the rest of my life
I blogged it for me to find peace, for me to hold myself accountable for my own actions and may be a part of me is begging my father to forgive me.
I don’t have the courage to go and meet my father face to face and tell him that I betrayed him and I don’t think he will ever forgive me.
I would like to reiterate that since ‘then’ In my head and in my mind George has always been acha as in uncle not as in father, but the guilt..it never goes away..

8 thoughts on “Acha

  1. was just clearing. dont want to hang on that hehe. then, we use ammachan for mother’s uncle usually..

    anyways.. as long as you know what you mean when you call by some name, it is ok rt 🙂

  2. Sarah
    Yours is one such blog where readers laugh with you, cry with you, suffer with you…little Nina Thomas is very much alive in the hearts of anyone who has read your posts. Thanks for clarifying….Sincerely hoping you will find peace

  3. hi good you clarified the word “acha” it had confused me a lot, i had guessed it that it was a short form for “amachan” still it cud have been somethign else not acha 🙂 thanks for the clarification.

  4. Sarah, commenting is disabled? 🙁

    Just wanted to say so cute to BE’s rose gesture. That image of Gangamma holding the rose outside your door – priceless 🙂

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